Therapy for People Navigating Fertility & Family-Building

Fertility journeys have a way of rearranging your inner world. Even if you’re someone who is used to powering through stress, the emotional terrain of trying to grow a family is different. It’s vulnerable, unpredictable, and lonely in ways that are hard to talk about.

Whether you’re going through IVF, navigating pregnancy loss, working with donor conception, facing difficult medical decisions, or just constantly waiting for the next appointment or test result, fertility is not just a medical process — it’s an emotional one. And you deserve support that sees the whole picture.

A lot of people going through fertility feel:

  • Overwhelmed by how much they’re “holding”

  • Caught between hope and dread

  • Numb and anxious at the same time

  • Disconnected from their bodies

  • Alone, even in partnership

  • Unsure how to talk to family or community

  • Uncertain about the future

  • Guilty about “shouldn’t I be handling this better?”

  • Exhausted by the emotional whiplash

You don’t have to go through all of this in isolation. I work with individuals and couples navigating fertility because I understand the emotional landscape, as someone who’s walked alongside many people in this process. Fertility isn’t just about making decisions. It’s about managing fear, grief, longing, and the complete lack of control that comes with something that feels so personal.

Therapy becomes a place where:

  • You can say the hard things without worrying about burdening anyone

  • Your feelings don’t have to be “positive” or “inspirational”

  • Ambivalence, disappointment, hope, fear, confusion, and anger all get to exist

  • Your body’s reactions make sense

  • You don’t have to pretend you’re okay

  • You can slow down and actually hear yourself

We’ll explore everything you’re wrestling with including:

  • Identity questions (“Who am I if this doesn’t go the way I expected?”)

  • Body distrust

  • Anxiety around appointments, results, or timelines

  • Grief

  • Relationship strain or misalignment

  • The pressure of cultural or family expectations

  • The impact on your sense of meaning or purpose

My approach is grounded, steady, and deeply attuned. I’m not going to hand you platitudes or tell you to “just stay hopeful.” I’m here to sit with you in the complexity — the parts that feel too raw or too heavy for most people to hear.

My name is Toby Singer. I’m a Brooklyn-based therapist licensed in NY and MD.

Everyone’s fertility path is different, but everyone deserves to be supported. If your fertility journey has taken over your emotional bandwidth, or if you feel like you’re living your life around cycles, appointments, and “what ifs,” you don’t have to hold it alone. Email me to set up a free consultation to see if we’re a good fit to work together.